 The HalachaEven if one has a constructive purpose for speaking, he must make sure not to exxagerate any details of the story. |
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| The Halacha When sharing negative information, not only does there need to be a constructive purpose, but there also needs to be a reasonable chance that your words will help. If the person listening has already made up his mind and your words are not likely to change it, then your words no longer have a constructive purpose. |
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| The Halacha You are allowed to use other people’s mistakes as an example in order to help someone else learn a valuable lesson, but only on condition that the story is a well known case. Of course, you must always ascertain exactly how much may be said. |
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| The Halacha Machlokes, especially that which divides a community is such a corrosive force that anyone who could possibly make peace should try to do so. However, one must seek guidance from Rav to ensure that fuel isn’t added to the fire. |
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| The Halacha Saying you don’t want to answer implies that you have something negative to say, which is Avak Loshon Hora. In such a case, one should try to answer the question in a neutral way. |
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| The Halacha If your praise might encourage others to take advantage of someone’s kindness, it could cause the person financial or emotional hardship. Because such words can cause harm, they are not permitted. |
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| The Halacha One may not imply something bad about someone, even if it is meant as a sincere compliment. This is called Avak Loshon Hora. |
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| The Halacha Normally, a person must ask forgiveness from the one he has hurt. However, if no harm has been done one must not approach the victim. Rather, one should try to stop the information from going any further. |
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| The Halacha Loshon hora is forbidden because it causes others to think badly about a person. This isn’t usually a problem when speaking about children, since most people won’t judge a child harshly for acting like a child. However, the other problem with loshon hora is causing damage to the person. Therefore, one must be careful not to say anything about a child that could hurt his future prospects. |
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| The Halacha Speaking poorly about food is loshon hora, because it can convince other people not to go to that establishment, causing the owner to lose business. However, if one is clear that this is only their opinion, like saying, “It’s not my taste,” then it would be okay. |
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